girl code<\/a>, there are the racial dynamics at play: as a Black woman, Miller was subject to racist abuse after dating Wilson, who is white.<\/p>\nWhile I have no experience to draw on in relation to the latter, I know well the complicated, often confusing feelings that arise when two friends date the same guy. That\u2019s because my first serious boyfriend\u2014the one I said \u201cI love you\u201d to first, lost my virginity to, and who first broke my heart\u2014had dated my (former) best friend before me.<\/p>\n
Sadie (not her real name) and I had been close since our first year of secondary school, when we bonded over a shared love of Dawson\u2019s Creek<\/em> and McDonald\u2019s chicken nuggets. We sat next to each other in every class, called each other every night, and spent every Saturday afternoon wandering around the local town center before renting a teen rom-com at Blockbuster and watching it in her bedroom.<\/p>\nAs pupils at an all-girls school, we were fairly starved of male attention, so it was only when we started to go to an indie club night that was famously lax on ID checks that we began to mix with our peers of the opposite sex. It was here that we first met Tom (not his real name, either). He was tall, blond, and confident, a year older than us and the owner of a Citro\u00ebn Saxo, as well as a 20-pack of Marlboros. He was almost immediately smitten with Sadie, who has a Liv Tyler-esque elfin beauty: all freckles, blue eyes, and pale skin. They went on a few dates to the cinema, snogged in the corner of the nightclub, and chatted late into the night over MSN Messenger. Then, after about six weeks, Tom and Sadie were over\u2014the fling ending as quickly as it had begun.<\/p>\n
I still spoke to Tom at our favorite club night, enjoying a bantering back-and-forth as we had before\u2014and soon I noticed that he was paying me a little more attention. He\u2019d compliment my dress or my hair, or ask me if I wanted a drink at the bar or to share a taxi home. Sadie and I had never been competitive over a boy before because, well, we didn\u2019t know any boys. But one night, with my reserve weakened by cheap Sambuca shots, Tom and I ended up kissing. Sadie saw it happen and promptly left\u2014not in tears, exactly, but just\u2026 shock.<\/p>\n
I was terrified of her reaction, knowing full well that it was a truly horrible thing to have done. But on the following Monday at school, she shrugged it off. \u201cI ended things with him,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n
Interpreting this, at surface value, as permission, I proceeded to fall head over heels. It was the kind of intoxicating first love in which you are talking about baby names one minute and screaming at each other for an imagined indiscretion the next. He was all I could think about\u2014and talk about. Unsurprisingly, this created tension with Sadie, who at first simply rolled her eyes and pretended not to care, her ego clearly badly bruised by this development.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n
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